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The Dual-Control Model

January 9, 2024

I have been really enjoying Emily Nagoski’s podcast titled Come As You Are named after her bestselling book of the same name. I decided to create a graphic of what she calls her “most famous friend” aka the Dual-Control Model, inspired by the episode The Science of Horniness (click here to listen). Hint: it’s more about turning off the offs than activating more arousal!

Tags sextherapy, desire, arousal, dualcontrolmodel, comeasyouare, sex
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